Desk Order Divorce: The Do-It-Yourself Divorce Process (No. 121)

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This information applies to British Columbia, Canada. Last reviewed for legal accuracy by Samantha De Wit, Brown Henderson Melbye, and Zahra H. Jimale, Jimale Law Corporation in October 2018.

If you and your spouse agree on the issues of parenting, support and property, there is a fast-track way to get a divorce. You can apply for a “desk-order divorce”.

Understand your legal rights

You need a divorce order to end a marriage

To get divorced, you need to get a divorce order under the Divorce Act. In BC, only the Supreme Court can grant this order. To get a divorce order, you have to start a court case. This is so even if you and your spouse agree on everything and don’t need the court to make an order about anything other than the divorce.

To get a divorce, you must prove your marriage has broken down. You can show marriage breakdown in three ways. We explain these ways in our information on the requirements for divorce (no. 120).

A desk-order divorce allows you to avoid going to court

A desk-order divorce is a process that lets you get a divorce order without going to court. It’s also called an “undefended” or “uncontested divorce”.

Here’s how it works. One spouse starts a court case against the other spouse, who doesn’t oppose the divorce order. Once the deadline for a response passes, the spouse bringing the lawsuit can apply for the divorce order. This application involves completing several court forms and filing them in court. No one has to appear before a judge.

You can file jointly

Alternatively, both spouses can start the court case together using special court forms. This is a bit cheaper and faster than if only one spouse starts the court case, because there’s no need to serve a spouse with the court forms and there‘s no need to wait for the response deadline.

The process when one spouse starts the court case is called a sole divorce proceeding. The process when the spouses start the court case together is called a joint divorce proceeding.

This information describes the process for the sole divorce proceeding.

You give evidence without going to court

The evidence the court needs to make an order will be given in affidavits you file in court. An affidavit is a legal document where a witness makes statements about facts they say are true.

Unless the court decides that further evidence or a full hearing is required, it will usually make the divorce order without requiring anyone to attend a court hearing.

If you have children together

The court will need evidence that reasonable arrangements have been made for the financial support of the children. This is true even if the spouse who has the children most of the time is happy with the support arrangements. The court has a special duty to make sure the financial arrangements for the children are appropriate. It needs evidence about your income and your spouse’s income, the children’s living arrangements, and the amount of child support being paid (or an explanation why child support is not being paid). Without this information, the court will not make an order for divorce.

When the divorce takes effect

You are not divorced on the day the divorce order is made. Unless there are special circumstances, the divorce will take effect 31 days after the divorce order is granted. You should not plan on remarrying within that 31-day period.

Once the 31 days have passed, if your spouse hasn’t filed an appeal of the divorce order, you can ask the court to issue a certificate of divorce confirming that the divorce order has taken effect. Once the 31 days have passed, you will be divorced whether you get the certificate of divorce or not.

If you bring joint divorce proceedings

If both of you agree to the divorce order, and to any other orders you want the court to make, you can start the divorce proceeding together by filing a joint divorce proceeding.

Service is not required in a joint divorce proceeding. Depending on whether the one-year period of separation has passed, you may be able to apply for the divorce order on the same day you file your joint claim. Both of you will sign the notice of joint claim. Both of you will file affidavits giving the court the information it needs to decide if the divorce order is justified. If you have children, you will also both have to file an affidavit dealing with child support. This affidavit gives the court more information about your income and the arrangements for child support.

The steps in the process

Step 1. Get your marriage certificate

If you don’t have an original, government-issued marriage certificate, you have to get one. Photocopies won’t be accepted by the court registry, except in special cases and with special permission. A copy of an original marriage certificate may be acceptable if it is certified to be a true copy of the original by a lawyer, notary public, or a government official.

If you were married in British Columbia, you can get an original marriage certificate from the Vital Statistics Agency. Call 604-660-2937 in the Lower Mainland, 250-952-2681 in Greater Victoria, or toll-free 1-888-876-1633 elsewhere in BC.

If you were married outside of BC, you’ll need to contact the equivalent government agency where you were married to get an original marriage certificate or a certified copy. It’s not the certificate from the person who performed the marriage that’s needed, but the government-issued record of your marriage.

If you have a foreign marriage certificate not in English, you will also have to file a certified English translation of the foreign marriage certificate.

If you were married outside of Canada and can’t get an original, government-issued marriage certificate, you can’t get a desk-order divorce. Instead, you will need to apply to court to do away with the need for a marriage certificate.

Step 2. Complete the form to start the court case

A document called a notice starts the court case. Supreme Court Form F3 is the notice form for a sole divorce proceeding. The notice states the basis for the divorce and gives information about you, your spouse and any children, as well as the details of your marriage and separation. You can download the notice and other divorce forms from the BC government website.

The notice form also allows you to ask for other orders along with a divorce order. Other orders might be about the parenting arrangements for your children, child support, spousal support, or the division of property and debt.

If your spouse doesn’t agree to the claims you are making, they can file a response. If they do so, you can’t get a desk-order divorce.

Step 3. File your documents in court

Once you have filled out and signed the notice form, you must file it in court, along with your marriage certificate. You have to file the original notice form together with at least three photocopies. The court keeps the original and gives you the copies, stamped with the court’s official stamp.

Step 4. Serve your spouse with the notice

Someone who is being sued, even in an undefended divorce proceeding, must be given formal notice about the court case. Your spouse must be served by personal service, which means arranging for the filed notice to be physically delivered to your spouse. You cannot serve the document yourself. You must get someone else, who is at least 19 years old, to leave the filed notice form with your spouse.

You must prove the service

Your server must swear an affidavit of service in Form F15 describing how, when, and with what your spouse was served.

If personal service is not possible

If your spouse can’t be personally served — for example, because you don’t know where they live — other ways are available to let them know about the court action. This is called substitutional service or alternative service. You must have a court order to use this type of service.

The court may, for example, allow notice to be served through a classified ad in a local newspaper. Or it may order that the notice be given to someone your spouse knows, such as their parents, a co-worker or a roommate.

Step 5. Wait for 30 days

Your spouse has 30 days to defend the court case by filing a response in Form F4. If your spouse files a response, you can’t get a desk-order divorce.

In addition to responding to your claim, your spouse may also file a counterclaim and make claims against you.


If you have been served with divorce papers, see our information on responding to divorce proceedings (no. 122).

Step 6. If your spouse does nothing, apply for a divorce order

After the 30 days has run out, you can apply for the divorce order by filing in court:

  • a requisition in Form F35; this is a document asking for the divorce order
  • the affidavit of service saying your spouse was personally served with the notice that started the court case
  • your affidavit in Form F38 giving the court your evidence in support of the divorce order
  • a draft of the divorce order in Form F52

If you have children, you will also have to file an affidavit dealing with child support in Form F37. This affidavit gives the court more information about your income and your spouse’s income, and the arrangements for child support.

If you are asking for a divorce based on separation, you can apply for the divorce order only after you and your spouse have lived separately and apart for one year. If you are asking for a divorce based on your spouse’s adultery or cruelty toward you, you must provide proof of the adultery or cruelty in your affidavit, plus supporting evidence from your spouse or a witness to the adultery or cruelty.

If you are asking for an order dividing family property and family debt other than equally, your affidavit should explain why the unequal division is fair (for more on this topic, see our information on dividing property and debts, no. 124).

Get help

With your divorce

The Legal Services Society Family LawLINE provides free legal advice over the telephone to people on a low income experiencing a family law issue.

Telephone: 604-408-2172 in Greater Vancouver
Toll-free: 1-866-577-2525

The BC Family Law Unbundling Roster features family lawyers and paralegals who offer “unbundled legal services”, where you hire them to help with part of a legal matter.


More information

The Legal Services Society’s Family Law in BC website features uncontested divorce guides that include step-by-step instructions and blank forms you'll need.


The wikibook JP Boyd on Family Law includes how-to information on starting a divorce action together with sample forms.


The Online Divorce Assistant is a free online tool from the BC government that can help you fill out the forms for a joint divorce under certain circumstances.

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