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You can't force your ex to go to arbitration with you, you can only do it with their agreement. Of course, your ex isn't likely to agree to arbitration if they are still feeling pissed off about a recent <span class="noglossary">argument</span> or resentful about the end of the relationship. | You can't force your ex to go to arbitration with you, you can only do it with their agreement. Of course, your ex isn't likely to agree to arbitration if they are still feeling pissed off about a recent <span class="noglossary">argument</span> or resentful about the end of the relationship. | ||
When you've got the right moment, suggesting arbitration can be as simple as calling your ex up, inviting them out for a cup of coffee at the local Tim Hortons and making your case to try arbitration rather than another process, like going to court: | When you've got the right moment, suggesting arbitration can be as simple as calling your ex up, inviting them out for a cup of coffee at the local Tim Hortons, and making your case to try arbitration rather than another process, like going to court: | ||
<blockquote>"Hey look, I think it's time that we sat down and started to talk about things. I know you're still a bit upset about everything, but we really need to make a few decisions and I don't think we're going to be able to do this on our own. I've asked my friend Simeng what happened with her and Robert, and she said that they resolved everything through arbitration."</blockquote> | <blockquote>"Hey look, I think it's time that we sat down and started to talk about things. I know you're still a bit upset about everything, but we really need to make a few decisions and I don't think we're going to be able to do this on our own. I've asked my friend Simeng what happened with her and Robert, and she said that they resolved everything through arbitration."</blockquote> | ||
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*you can get the help of professionals like child psychologists, business valuators, and tax planners in the arbitration process, | *you can get the help of professionals like child psychologists, business valuators, and tax planners in the arbitration process, | ||
*with input of the arbitrator, you can design the rules that <span class="noglossary">will</span> apply to the arbitration process, | *with input of the arbitrator, you can design the rules that <span class="noglossary">will</span> apply to the arbitration process, | ||
*with input of the arbitrator, you can decide on the documents and information <span class="noglossary">will</span> be needed for your hearing, | *with input of the arbitrator, you can decide on the documents and information <span class="noglossary">that will</span> be needed for your hearing, | ||
*the arbitrator's decision is just as final and just as binding as a court award, | *the arbitrator's decision is just as final and just as binding as a court award, | ||
*you can schedule the hearing date as soon as you want, where you want, and | *you can schedule the hearing date as soon as you want, where you want, and | ||
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Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials are one or two weeks long, and this figure ignores the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of all the other things that have to happen before you walk into the courtroom on day one! As well, trials in court can take anywhere from eight months to two years to start. | Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials are one or two weeks long, and this figure ignores the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of all the other things that have to happen before you walk into the courtroom on day one! As well, trials in court can take anywhere from eight months to two years to start. | ||
If this doesn't get your ex to agree to try arbitration, tell them to ask separated friends, family members and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. | If this doesn't get your ex to agree to try arbitration, tell them to ask separated friends, family members, and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. | ||
==Hire an arbitrator== | ==Hire an arbitrator== | ||