Difference between revisions of "Behaviour, Boundaries and Privacy after Separation"

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You also need to resist the urge to lash out in your offline life. Cry on the shoulders of your friends and family; use them to vent your frustrations, but leave it there. Remember that if things get ugly and you wind up going to court, everything that you say or do can be introduced into evidence. Remember also that when the court is required to consider the best interests of the children, section 37(2) of the ''[[Family Law Act]]'' says that the court must think about:
You also need to resist the urge to lash out in your offline life. Cry on the shoulders of your friends and family; use them to vent your frustrations, but leave it there. Remember that if things get ugly and you wind up going to court, everything that you say or do can be introduced into evidence. Remember also that when the court is required to consider the best interests of the children, section 37(2) of the ''[[Family Law Act]]'' says that the court must think about:


<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(e) the child's need for stability, given the child's age and stage of development;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(e) the child's need for stability, given the child's age and stage of development;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(g) the impact of any family violence on the child's safety, security or well-being, whether the family violence is directed toward the child or another family member;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(g) the impact of any family violence on the child's safety, security or well-being, whether the family violence is directed toward the child or another family member;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(h) whether the actions of a person responsible for family violence indicate that the person may be impaired in his or her ability to care for the child and meet the child's needs;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(h) whether the actions of a person responsible for family violence indicate that the person may be impaired in his or her ability to care for the child and meet the child's needs;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(i) the appropriateness of an arrangement that would require the child's guardians to cooperate on issues affecting the child, including whether requiring cooperation would increase any risks to the safety, security or well-being of the child or other family members;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(i) the appropriateness of an arrangement that would require the child's guardians to cooperate on issues affecting the child, including whether requiring cooperation would increase any risks to the safety, security or well-being of the child or other family members;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>


while section 16(3) of the ''[[Divorce Act]]'' says that the court must think about:
while section 16(3) of the ''[[Divorce Act]]'' says that the court must think about:


<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(c) each spouse’s willingness to support the development and maintenance of the child’s relationship with the other spouse;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(c) each spouse’s willingness to support the development and maintenance of the child’s relationship with the other spouse;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
 
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(h) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to care for and meet the needs of the child;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
 
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(i) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to communicate and cooperate, in particular with one another, on matters affecting the child;</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
(h) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to care for and meet the needs of the child;
<blockquote><blockquote><tt>(j) any family violence and its impact on, among other things,</tt></blockquote></blockquote>
 
<blockquote><blockquote><blockquote><tt>(i) the ability and willingness of any person who engaged in the family violence to care for and meet the needs of the child, and</tt></blockquote></blockquote></blockquote>
(i) the ability and willingness of each person in respect of whom the order would apply to communicate and cooperate, in particular with one another, on matters affecting the child;
<blockquote><blockquote><blockquote><tt>(ii) the appropriateness of making an order that would require persons in respect of whom the order would apply to cooperate on issues affecting the child;</tt></blockquote></blockquote></blockquote>
 
(j) any family violence and its impact on, among other things,
 
(i) the ability and willingness of any person who engaged in the family violence to care for and meet the needs of the child, and
 
(ii) the appropriateness of making an order that would require persons in respect of whom the order would apply to cooperate on issues affecting the child; and
 
(k) any civil or criminal proceeding, order, condition, or measure that is relevant to the safety, security and well-being of the child.




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