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*the collaborative process <span class="noglossary">will</span> give you and your ex the best chance of leaving your relationship on good terms, | *the collaborative process <span class="noglossary">will</span> give you and your ex the best chance of leaving your relationship on good terms, | ||
*you can both participate in making the important decisions about your kids, your money and your property, | *you can both participate in making the important decisions about your kids, your money, and your property, | ||
*other helping professionals, like registered clinical counsellors and financial experts, can be brought into the process whenever their specific expertise would help, without paying the lawyers to do everything, | *other helping professionals, like registered clinical counsellors and financial experts, can be brought into the process whenever their specific expertise would help, without paying the lawyers to do everything, | ||
*everyone is committed to finding a settlement without going to court, including the lawyers, | *everyone is committed to finding a settlement without going to court, including the lawyers, | ||
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Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials are one or two weeks long, and this figure ignores the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of all the other things that have to happen before you walk into the courtroom on day one! | Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials are one or two weeks long, and this figure ignores the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of all the other things that have to happen before you walk into the courtroom on day one! | ||
If this doesn't get your ex to agree to try a collaborative approach, tell them to ask separated friends, family members and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. Or maybe your ex would be willing to meet with a counsellor trained in the collaborative process who can help you both work on a parenting plan before starting the process with lawyers. Some people are more open to working on the parenting aspect and are wary of hiring a lawyer, so that can be a good way to start. | If this doesn't get your ex to agree to try a collaborative approach, tell them to ask separated friends, family members, and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. Or maybe your ex would be willing to meet with a counsellor trained in the collaborative process who can help you both work on a parenting plan before starting the process with lawyers. Some people are more open to working on the parenting aspect and are wary of hiring a lawyer, so that can be a good way to start. | ||
==Hire collaborative lawyers== | ==Hire collaborative lawyers== | ||