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How Do I Start Negotiations with My Spouse? (view source)
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When you and your ex are ready to start talking, start talking! Try to make the process as cooperative as possible, which usually means not preparing a stack of calculations to hand to your ex the moment they sit down. No one likes to be bombarded by a bunch of documents as if there was a done deal. Make a list of the things you need to talk about together. Usually this includes: | When you and your ex are ready to start talking, start talking! Try to make the process as cooperative as possible, which usually means not preparing a stack of calculations to hand to your ex the moment they sit down. No one likes to be bombarded by a bunch of documents as if there was a done deal. Make a list of the things you need to talk about together. Usually this includes: | ||
*where the children <span class="noglossary">will</span> live, | |||
*how decisions about the children <span class="noglossary">will</span> be made, | |||
*how much child support should be paid, | |||
*whether someone is in need of spousal support, and how much should be paid, and | |||
*how the family assets and debts <span class="noglossary">will</span> be divided. | |||
Other lists <span class="noglossary">will</span> be useful as the negotiations continue: | Other lists <span class="noglossary">will</span> be useful as the negotiations continue: | ||
*which assets are the family property that needs to be divided, | |||
*how much that property is worth, | |||
*what are the family debts and how much is owing, | |||
*when <span class="noglossary">will</span> each parent be with the children, | |||
*how <span class="noglossary">will</span> holidays and other special days be shared, and | |||
*what additional information each of you needs to collect. | |||
Most importantly, keep a separate piece of paper to write down the things that you agree on as you agree on them. This <span class="noglossary">will</span> help to keep a record of the issues that have been decided, and give each of you a sense of commitment to those decisions. | Most importantly, keep a separate piece of paper to write down the things that you agree on as you agree on them. This <span class="noglossary">will</span> help to keep a record of the issues that have been decided, and give each of you a sense of commitment to those decisions. | ||