My Partner Is Abusing Me and My Kids: Difference between revisions
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== First steps == | == First steps == | ||
# Make sure that you and your children are safe. This may mean leaving the family home for awhile and staying with friends or staying in a transition house. (Look in the Yellow | # Make sure that you and your children are safe. This may mean leaving the family home for awhile and staying with friends or staying in a transition house. (Look in the Yellow Pages under "Crisis Centres" or call [[VictimLINK]]). The local police station can also give you information about transition houses and other victim services.) | ||
# If the abuse involves physical or sexual violence, consider reporting it to the police. Staff at local transition houses and victim services groups can support you in doing this. | # If the abuse involves physical or sexual violence, consider reporting it to the police. Staff at local transition houses and victim services groups can support you in doing this. | ||
# If you want the abuser to stay away from you, you can ask the police to ask a judge for a "no contact order" to prevent or limit the abuser from having contact with you or your children. Ask the police to give you contact information for a victim services worker. | # If you want the abuser to stay away from you, you can ask the police to ask a judge for a "no contact order" to prevent or limit the abuser from having contact with you or your children. Ask the police to give you contact information for a victim services worker. | ||
# If you need a lawyer but cannot afford one on your own, see if you qualify for [[Legal Aid Representation]]. If you qualify, the Legal Services Society will appoint a lawyer to advise you and represent you in Family Court. Victims are not usually entitled to representation by lawyers in criminal court. | # If you need a lawyer but cannot afford one on your own, see if you qualify for [[Legal Aid Representation|legal aid representation]]. If you qualify, the Legal Services Society will appoint a lawyer to advise you and represent you in Family Court. Victims are not usually entitled to representation by lawyers in criminal court. | ||
# If you have been in a relationship with the abuser, you or your lawyer can make an application to the Family Court or BC Supreme Court for an order preventing or limiting the abuser from having contact with you and/or your children. You can take this step instead of or in addition to reporting the abuse to the police. If you are acting on your own, follow the process described | # If you have been in a relationship with the abuser, you or your lawyer can make an application to the Family Court or BC Supreme Court for an order preventing or limiting the abuser from having contact with you and/or your children. You can take this step instead of or in addition to reporting the abuse to the police. If you are acting on your own, follow the process described under "[[I just separated from the other parent of my children]]" in this Guide. | ||
== What happens next == | == What happens next == |
Revision as of 02:15, 19 January 2012
Both the criminal law process and family law process can be used to deal with relationship violence and abuse. There are also a number of services in most BC communities, such as transition houses, victim assistance programs and counselling services, to help victims of violence.
First steps[edit]
- Make sure that you and your children are safe. This may mean leaving the family home for awhile and staying with friends or staying in a transition house. (Look in the Yellow Pages under "Crisis Centres" or call VictimLINK). The local police station can also give you information about transition houses and other victim services.)
- If the abuse involves physical or sexual violence, consider reporting it to the police. Staff at local transition houses and victim services groups can support you in doing this.
- If you want the abuser to stay away from you, you can ask the police to ask a judge for a "no contact order" to prevent or limit the abuser from having contact with you or your children. Ask the police to give you contact information for a victim services worker.
- If you need a lawyer but cannot afford one on your own, see if you qualify for legal aid representation. If you qualify, the Legal Services Society will appoint a lawyer to advise you and represent you in Family Court. Victims are not usually entitled to representation by lawyers in criminal court.
- If you have been in a relationship with the abuser, you or your lawyer can make an application to the Family Court or BC Supreme Court for an order preventing or limiting the abuser from having contact with you and/or your children. You can take this step instead of or in addition to reporting the abuse to the police. If you are acting on your own, follow the process described under "I just separated from the other parent of my children" in this Guide.
What happens next[edit]
Criminal Court[edit]
If a criminal charge has been laid, the abuser will be given a date to appear in Provincial Criminal Court. At this first appearance, the abuser (called "the accused" in court) can ask for a copy of both the charge and the report from the police to the Crown Counsel. (The Crown Counsel is the lawyer who prosecutes the case against the abuser on behalf of the government.) You are considered a witness and you should speak with the Crown Counsel before court so they know whether or not you want the judge to order that the accused can have contact with you or your children until the case is completed. For more information on what happens after criminal charges have been laid, see below under the heading, "I've been charged with a criminal offence and have to go to court".
Family Court[edit]
If you have completed an Application to Obtain an Order and asked the judge for a "without notice" order (an immediate court appearance without the abuser in attendance), you will be given a time and date to be in court. At court, the judge will ask you why you want no contact from the abuser. If the judge agrees with you, he or she will make the order until a court date in the future. Be aware that after the Without Notice order is pronounced, the Family Court will send a copy to your ex.
Where to get help[edit]
See the Resource Guide in this Guide for a list of helpful resources. Your best bets are:
- BC/Yukon Society of Transition Houses and VictimLink.
- Legal Aid Representation, to see if you qualify for legal aid.
- Family Law in BC website, for forms, self-help materials and other legal information about spousal abuse.
- Family LawLINE.
- Access Pro Bono, Lawyer Referral Service, Salvation Army Pro Bono Lawyer Consultation Program, Private Bar Lawyers.
- Clicklaw common question "A woman is being abused by her partner. What legal help can she get?"
Before meeting with a lawyer or advocate, complete the form Preparing for Your Interview included in this Guide. Make sure you bring copies of all documents relating to your case.
This Guide explains the law and legal procedures in general. It is not intended to give legal advice on your particular legal problem, and should not be relied on for that purpose. Information in this Guide is accurate as at November 2012. Please note that fees and guidelines outlined in the Guide are subject to change. |