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The breakdown of a relationship is an extraordinarily difficult experience for everyone involved. Contrary to the impression you might form from much of the rest of this website, a couple's legal difficulties are only one part of the whole experience of ending a long-term relationship. The purpose shared by all collaborative processes is to provide a non-adversarial space for the parties to resolve their issues and emerge, at the end of the process, as emotionally- and psychologically-whole people. | The breakdown of a relationship is an extraordinarily difficult experience for everyone involved. Contrary to the impression you might form from much of the rest of this website, a couple's legal difficulties are only one part of the whole experience of ending a long-term relationship. The purpose shared by all collaborative processes is to provide a non-adversarial space for the parties to resolve their issues and emerge, at the end of the process, as emotionally- and psychologically-whole people. | ||
Litigation, which used to be the primary mechanism for resolving family law disputes, is adversarial by nature and usually aggravates the emotional difficulties couples face when their relationships breaks down rather than improving things. In collaborative processes, on the other hand, the parties agree that they will not go to court, and sign an agreement to that effect, and mental health professionals are included in the process as necessary. | Litigation, which used to be the primary mechanism for resolving family law disputes, is adversarial by nature and usually aggravates the emotional difficulties couples face when their relationships breaks down rather than improving things. In collaborative processes, on the other hand, the parties agree that they <span class="noglossary">will</span> not go to court, and sign an agreement to that effect, and mental health professionals are included in the process as necessary. | ||
Of course, not every couple is suited to a collaborative approach. This process requires honesty and good faith, both to oneself and to others. Sometimes the breakdown of a relationship is so full of anger and bitterness that no approach will work except for litigation. Like all other alternatives to court except arbitration, if each party isn't willing to use and embrace the collaborative process, it simply will not work. | Of course, not every couple is suited to a collaborative approach. This process requires honesty and good faith, both to oneself and to others. Sometimes the breakdown of a relationship is so full of anger and bitterness that no approach <span class="noglossary">will</span> work except for litigation. Like all other alternatives to court except arbitration, if each party isn't willing to use and embrace the collaborative process, it simply <span class="noglossary">will</span> not work. | ||
==Overview== | ==Overview== | ||
The following discussion takes a general look at collaborative settlement processes. Since collaborative approaches are very much tailored to the unique circumstances of each couple, their preferences and those of their lawyers, you should read what follows with a grain of salt. This description may not represent how you or your collaborative lawyer will prefer to do things. | The following discussion takes a general look at collaborative settlement processes. Since collaborative approaches are very much tailored to the unique circumstances of each couple, their preferences and those of their lawyers, you should read what follows with a grain of salt. This description may not represent how you or your collaborative lawyer <span class="noglossary">will</span> prefer to do things. | ||
===Finding a collaborative lawyer=== | ===Finding a collaborative lawyer=== | ||
The first step is for each spouse to find and hire a lawyer. You should look for a lawyer experienced in collaborative law, or, at a bare minimum, one who is open to the idea; most lawyers who practice collaborative law will expressly describe themselves as collaborative lawyers or collaborative practitioners in their promotional materials. The lawyers will then explain the collaborative process to their respective clients, and contact each other to prepare a collaborative process participation agreement. | The first step is for each spouse to find and hire a lawyer. You should look for a lawyer experienced in collaborative law, or, at a bare minimum, one who is open to the idea; most lawyers who practice collaborative law <span class="noglossary">will</span> expressly describe themselves as collaborative lawyers or collaborative practitioners in their promotional materials. The lawyers <span class="noglossary">will</span> then explain the collaborative process to their respective clients, and contact each other to prepare a collaborative process participation agreement. | ||
A good place to start looking for a lawyer is the website of the collaborative law practice group nearest you, such as: | A good place to start looking for a lawyer is the website of the collaborative law practice group nearest you, such as: | ||
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===Signing the participation agreement=== | ===Signing the participation agreement=== | ||
The parties and their lawyers will then sign the participation agreement that commits them to working together, using non-adversarial problem-solving techniques and cooperative negotiation strategies, to reach a fair settlement without going to court. The participation agreement will contain a number of important terms which are very important to understand. Among other things, most participation agreements will provide that: | The parties and their lawyers <span class="noglossary">will</span> then sign the participation agreement that commits them to working together, using non-adversarial problem-solving techniques and cooperative negotiation strategies, to reach a fair settlement without going to court. The participation agreement <span class="noglossary">will</span> contain a number of important terms which are very important to understand. Among other things, most participation agreements <span class="noglossary">will</span> provide that: | ||
*the parties are to discuss the issues in a frank and respectful manner, and not make unfounded accusations, | *the parties are to discuss the issues in a frank and respectful manner, and not make unfounded accusations, | ||
*while the collaborative process is underway, neither party will start proceeding in court, | *while the collaborative process is underway, neither party <span class="noglossary">will</span> start proceeding in court, | ||
*if litigation starts, both lawyers must withdraw and cannot continue to represent their clients, | *if litigation starts, both lawyers must withdraw and cannot continue to represent their clients, | ||
*the lawyer must end the collaborative process if his or her client withholds or misrepresents information, and | *the lawyer must end the collaborative process if his or her client withholds or misrepresents information, and | ||
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===Hiring the professional advisors=== | ===Hiring the professional advisors=== | ||
The parties and their lawyers will then start talking about whether any other help is likely to be needed, such as from divorce coaches, child specialists, if there are children involved, or financial advisors, if there are complex financial issues. These professionals are neutral in their approach and are not hired to represent or advocate for either party. Rather, their role is to help the process along by providing objective options and opinions about the subjects at issue. | The parties and their lawyers <span class="noglossary">will</span> then start talking about whether any other help is likely to be needed, such as from divorce coaches, child specialists, if there are children involved, or financial advisors, if there are complex financial issues. These professionals are neutral in their approach and are not hired to represent or advocate for either party. Rather, their role is to help the process along by providing objective options and opinions about the subjects at issue. | ||
Where the legal and emotional issues are straightforward, it's possible that no other professionals need to be hired. If something comes up during the process which suggests that it would be helpful to recruit a new team member, the professional can be hired then. | Where the legal and emotional issues are straightforward, it's possible that no other professionals need to be hired. If something comes up during the process which suggests that it would be helpful to recruit a new team member, the professional can be hired then. | ||
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*confirmation of income. | *confirmation of income. | ||
The parties produce their documents and information to the other on the understanding that the information, except for certain legal documents like financial statements, and the content of the negotiations will never be used in court and will remain private and confidential between the people involved in the collaborative process. | The parties produce their documents and information to the other on the understanding that the information, except for certain legal documents like financial statements, and the content of the negotiations <span class="noglossary">will</span> never be used in court and <span class="noglossary">will</span> remain private and confidential between the people involved in the collaborative process. | ||
===Starting discussions=== | ===Starting discussions=== | ||
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Once full disclosure has been made, the parties then begin to talk about what their personal interests and expectations are, and about what potential settlements might look like. This can be a short process or a long process, depending on the complexity of the emotional issues and the distance between the outcomes each party hopes to achieve. It may be necessary to delay things to get financial advice or for a property or business to be valued, to get some counselling, or to get an opinion from the child specialist. | Once full disclosure has been made, the parties then begin to talk about what their personal interests and expectations are, and about what potential settlements might look like. This can be a short process or a long process, depending on the complexity of the emotional issues and the distance between the outcomes each party hopes to achieve. It may be necessary to delay things to get financial advice or for a property or business to be valued, to get some counselling, or to get an opinion from the child specialist. | ||
Discussions between the parties and their lawyers will continue until a resolution is reached with which both parties are as happy as possible. You can expect that this will be a process of mutual compromise, and that the ultimate resolution will reflect neither party's original position. | Discussions between the parties and their lawyers <span class="noglossary">will</span> continue until a resolution is reached with which both parties are as happy as possible. You can expect that this <span class="noglossary">will</span> be a process of mutual compromise, and that the ultimate resolution <span class="noglossary">will</span> reflect neither party's original position. | ||
Along the way, depending on the nature of the issues, one or more temporary agreements may be reached. These are not meant to be a final determination of the issues, rather they are temporary, stop-gap solutions intended to deal with problems like the sale of the family home, the parties' time with the children over holidays and so forth. These interim agreements will all be replaced by the final agreement. | Along the way, depending on the nature of the issues, one or more temporary agreements may be reached. These are not meant to be a final determination of the issues, rather they are temporary, stop-gap solutions intended to deal with problems like the sale of the family home, the parties' time with the children over holidays and so forth. These interim agreements <span class="noglossary">will</span> all be replaced by the final agreement. | ||
You may want to have a look at the section on "[[Family Law Mediation#Tips for successful mediation|Tips for successful mediation]]" in the page on [[Family Law Mediation]] in this chapter for information about communication skills that can be helpful during the negotiation process. | You may want to have a look at the section on "[[Family Law Mediation#Tips for successful mediation|Tips for successful mediation]]" in the page on [[Family Law Mediation]] in this chapter for information about communication skills that can be helpful during the negotiation process. | ||
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===Signing the final agreeement=== | ===Signing the final agreeement=== | ||
The terms of the settlement will be put into either a formal separation agreement by one of the lawyers. The parties and the other lawyer will all be asked for comment and changes and adjustments will be made before the separation agreement is signed. | The terms of the settlement <span class="noglossary">will</span> be put into either a formal separation agreement by one of the lawyers. The parties and the other lawyer <span class="noglossary">will</span> all be asked for comment and changes and adjustments <span class="noglossary">will</span> be made before the separation agreement is signed. | ||
The collaborative process normally ends with the signing of the final agreement. However, until and unless the participation agreement is cancelled or set aside, the lawyers will remain bound by the terms of the agreement and cannot start a court proceeding on things covered by the separation agreement, even to enforce the agreement. | The collaborative process normally ends with the signing of the final agreement. However, until and unless the participation agreement is cancelled or set aside, the lawyers <span class="noglossary">will</span> remain bound by the terms of the agreement and cannot start a court proceeding on things covered by the separation agreement, even to enforce the agreement. | ||
Read the [[Separation Agreements]] page in the [[Family Agreements]] chapter for a discussion about separation agreements and their effect. | Read the [[Separation Agreements]] page in the [[Family Agreements]] chapter for a discussion about separation agreements and their effect. | ||
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The collaborative team includes the parties' lawyers, family law lawyers with special training in collaborative processes, and may also include mental health professionals, usually psychologists or registered clinical counsellors, who work as the parties' divorce coaches, a financial specialist and a child specialist. The team members work cooperatively with each other and the parties, and sometimes the parties' children. | The collaborative team includes the parties' lawyers, family law lawyers with special training in collaborative processes, and may also include mental health professionals, usually psychologists or registered clinical counsellors, who work as the parties' divorce coaches, a financial specialist and a child specialist. The team members work cooperatively with each other and the parties, and sometimes the parties' children. | ||
The degree to which each of these professionals may become involved will depend on the particular circumstances of each couple. For some couples, the child specialist will become the key team member, for others it may be their divorce coaches. A financial specialist may be unnecessary when the financial issues are straightforward, but when they are particularly complicated, the financial specialist may be critical to the success of the collaborative process. | The degree to which each of these professionals may become involved <span class="noglossary">will</span> depend on the particular circumstances of each couple. For some couples, the child specialist <span class="noglossary">will</span> become the key team member, for others it may be their divorce coaches. A financial specialist may be unnecessary when the financial issues are straightforward, but when they are particularly complicated, the financial specialist may be critical to the success of the collaborative process. | ||
===The lawyers=== | ===The lawyers=== | ||
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===The divorce coaches=== | ===The divorce coaches=== | ||
The divorce coaches are psychologists and counsellors. They help guide their clients through the emotional turbulence of the breakdown of their relationship, and assist each party in maintaining a relatively objective view of the situation. They may also help their clients develop their views on the issues and | The divorce coaches are psychologists and counsellors. They help guide their clients through the emotional turbulence of the breakdown of their relationship, and assist each party in maintaining a relatively objective view of the situation. They may also help their clients develop their views on the issues and help them develop more effective communication strategies. | ||
The divorce coaches will talk to each other and to the lawyers during the collaborative process, and share their respective clients' experiences and concerns. The divorce coaches may also work together, sometimes in joint sessions with the parties, to develop strategies and solutions for the benefit of everyone. | The divorce coaches <span class="noglossary">will</span> talk to each other and to the lawyers during the collaborative process, and share their respective clients' experiences and concerns. The divorce coaches may also work together, sometimes in joint sessions with the parties, to develop strategies and solutions for the benefit of everyone. | ||
===The financial advisor=== | ===The financial advisor=== |
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In collaborative settlement processes, the parties, their lawyers and their counsellors work together as a team to find a resolution of the issues arising from the breakdown of the parties' relationship, and consult experts such as child specialists and financial specialists as the need arises. The collaborative process is meant to address both the legal and the emotional consequences of the breakdown of a relationship.
This page provides a brief introduction to the collaborative processes, a step-by-step overview of the process, and a description of the roles played by each of the team members.
Introduction
The breakdown of a relationship is an extraordinarily difficult experience for everyone involved. Contrary to the impression you might form from much of the rest of this website, a couple's legal difficulties are only one part of the whole experience of ending a long-term relationship. The purpose shared by all collaborative processes is to provide a non-adversarial space for the parties to resolve their issues and emerge, at the end of the process, as emotionally- and psychologically-whole people.
Litigation, which used to be the primary mechanism for resolving family law disputes, is adversarial by nature and usually aggravates the emotional difficulties couples face when their relationships breaks down rather than improving things. In collaborative processes, on the other hand, the parties agree that they will not go to court, and sign an agreement to that effect, and mental health professionals are included in the process as necessary.
Of course, not every couple is suited to a collaborative approach. This process requires honesty and good faith, both to oneself and to others. Sometimes the breakdown of a relationship is so full of anger and bitterness that no approach will work except for litigation. Like all other alternatives to court except arbitration, if each party isn't willing to use and embrace the collaborative process, it simply will not work.
Overview
The following discussion takes a general look at collaborative settlement processes. Since collaborative approaches are very much tailored to the unique circumstances of each couple, their preferences and those of their lawyers, you should read what follows with a grain of salt. This description may not represent how you or your collaborative lawyer will prefer to do things.
Finding a collaborative lawyer
The first step is for each spouse to find and hire a lawyer. You should look for a lawyer experienced in collaborative law, or, at a bare minimum, one who is open to the idea; most lawyers who practice collaborative law will expressly describe themselves as collaborative lawyers or collaborative practitioners in their promotional materials. The lawyers will then explain the collaborative process to their respective clients, and contact each other to prepare a collaborative process participation agreement.
A good place to start looking for a lawyer is the website of the collaborative law practice group nearest you, such as:
- Collaborative Divorce Vancouver,
- The Collaborative Association in Metro Vancouver,
- Victoria's Collaborative Family Separation Professionals,
- the Okanagan Collaborative Family Law Group, and
- the Collaborative Law Group of Nelson.
A quick Google search for "collaborative law bc" should net you some additional resources, including collaborative family law lawyers in your area.
Signing the participation agreement
The parties and their lawyers will then sign the participation agreement that commits them to working together, using non-adversarial problem-solving techniques and cooperative negotiation strategies, to reach a fair settlement without going to court. The participation agreement will contain a number of important terms which are very important to understand. Among other things, most participation agreements will provide that:
- the parties are to discuss the issues in a frank and respectful manner, and not make unfounded accusations,
- while the collaborative process is underway, neither party will start proceeding in court,
- if litigation starts, both lawyers must withdraw and cannot continue to represent their clients,
- the lawyer must end the collaborative process if his or her client withholds or misrepresents information, and
- all communications generated during the process are to be kept strictly confidential.
More importantly, most participation agreements say that there is no settlement until a separation agreement has been signed. This is to make sure that everyone is committed to the settlement and prepared to be bound by its terms.
Hiring the professional advisors
The parties and their lawyers will then start talking about whether any other help is likely to be needed, such as from divorce coaches, child specialists, if there are children involved, or financial advisors, if there are complex financial issues. These professionals are neutral in their approach and are not hired to represent or advocate for either party. Rather, their role is to help the process along by providing objective options and opinions about the subjects at issue.
Where the legal and emotional issues are straightforward, it's possible that no other professionals need to be hired. If something comes up during the process which suggests that it would be helpful to recruit a new team member, the professional can be hired then.
Making disclosure
The team then begins the process of making disclosure of all documents and information relevant to the issues between the parties. The collaborative process is not a poker game, with each spouse bluffing the other and trying to take advantage; this process is transparent and requires absolute and unswerving honesty. Relevant documents often include:
- current and historic statements for bank accounts, retirement savings accounts and investment accounts,
- current statements for loans, mortgages and credit cards,
- tax returns,
- corporate financial statements and corporate tax returns, and
- confirmation of income.
The parties produce their documents and information to the other on the understanding that the information, except for certain legal documents like financial statements, and the content of the negotiations will never be used in court and will remain private and confidential between the people involved in the collaborative process.
Starting discussions
Once full disclosure has been made, the parties then begin to talk about what their personal interests and expectations are, and about what potential settlements might look like. This can be a short process or a long process, depending on the complexity of the emotional issues and the distance between the outcomes each party hopes to achieve. It may be necessary to delay things to get financial advice or for a property or business to be valued, to get some counselling, or to get an opinion from the child specialist.
Discussions between the parties and their lawyers will continue until a resolution is reached with which both parties are as happy as possible. You can expect that this will be a process of mutual compromise, and that the ultimate resolution will reflect neither party's original position.
Along the way, depending on the nature of the issues, one or more temporary agreements may be reached. These are not meant to be a final determination of the issues, rather they are temporary, stop-gap solutions intended to deal with problems like the sale of the family home, the parties' time with the children over holidays and so forth. These interim agreements will all be replaced by the final agreement.
You may want to have a look at the section on "Tips for successful mediation" in the page on Family Law Mediation in this chapter for information about communication skills that can be helpful during the negotiation process.
Signing the final agreeement
The terms of the settlement will be put into either a formal separation agreement by one of the lawyers. The parties and the other lawyer will all be asked for comment and changes and adjustments will be made before the separation agreement is signed.
The collaborative process normally ends with the signing of the final agreement. However, until and unless the participation agreement is cancelled or set aside, the lawyers will remain bound by the terms of the agreement and cannot start a court proceeding on things covered by the separation agreement, even to enforce the agreement.
Read the Separation Agreements page in the Family Agreements chapter for a discussion about separation agreements and their effect.
The team
The collaborative team includes the parties' lawyers, family law lawyers with special training in collaborative processes, and may also include mental health professionals, usually psychologists or registered clinical counsellors, who work as the parties' divorce coaches, a financial specialist and a child specialist. The team members work cooperatively with each other and the parties, and sometimes the parties' children.
The degree to which each of these professionals may become involved will depend on the particular circumstances of each couple. For some couples, the child specialist will become the key team member, for others it may be their divorce coaches. A financial specialist may be unnecessary when the financial issues are straightforward, but when they are particularly complicated, the financial specialist may be critical to the success of the collaborative process.
The lawyers
The role of the lawyers in the collaborative process is to advance the needs and protect the interests of their respective clients. The lawyers advise their clients on their legal rights and obligations, and provide them with information about the law, and the probable long- and short-term results of any particular decision.
However, in the collaborative approach to dispute resolution, the lawyers are also part of a team which is collectively dedicated to finding a comprehensive settlement. As a result, the parties' lawyers can be expected to behave in a much more transparent manner and work in a manner which is geared towards both parties' success.
The divorce coaches
The divorce coaches are psychologists and counsellors. They help guide their clients through the emotional turbulence of the breakdown of their relationship, and assist each party in maintaining a relatively objective view of the situation. They may also help their clients develop their views on the issues and help them develop more effective communication strategies.
The divorce coaches will talk to each other and to the lawyers during the collaborative process, and share their respective clients' experiences and concerns. The divorce coaches may also work together, sometimes in joint sessions with the parties, to develop strategies and solutions for the benefit of everyone.
The financial advisor
This financial advisor is a neutral party in the process, someone without any loyalty to either party, who is able to look at things objectively and impartially. His or her job is to present options to help the parties deal with the financial aspects of their relationship and their short- and long-term needs.
The child specialist
This child specialist is another neutral. His or her job is to represent the interests of the children, without any duty of loyalty to either parent. While all of the team members are of course concerned about the best interests of the children, the purposes of the child specialist are to ensure that the children remain a primary concern, help the parties develop a proper parenting plan, and identify and address issues regarding the children's future care.
Page resources and links
Links
- BC Collaborative Roster Society
- Collaborative Divorce Vancouver
- The Collaborative Association in Metro Vancouver
- Victoria's Collaborative Family Law Group
- the Okanagan Collaborative Family Law Group
- the Collaborative Law Group of Nelson
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