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When you've got the right moment, suggesting mediation can be as simple as calling your ex up and inviting them out for a cup of coffee at the local Tim Hortons: | When you've got the right moment, suggesting mediation can be as simple as calling your ex up and inviting them out for a cup of coffee at the local Tim Hortons: | ||
<blockquote>"Hey look, I think it's time that we sat down and started to talk about things. I know you're still a bit upset about everything, | <blockquote>"Hey look, I think it's time that we sat down and started to talk about things. I know you're still a bit upset about everything, and we really need to make a few decisions and I don't think we're going to be able to do this on our own. I've asked my friend Sally what happened with her and Frank, and she said that they used a mediator."</blockquote> | ||
At this point, it's all about getting your ex to try mediation, and it's your job to sell the idea. Here are some reasons why mediation is a really, really good idea: | At this point, it's all about getting your ex to try mediation, and it's your job to sell the idea. Here are some reasons why mediation is a really, really good idea: | ||
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*if I haven't mentioned this, mediation is much cheaper than hiring lawyers and going to court. | *if I haven't mentioned this, mediation is much cheaper than hiring lawyers and going to court. | ||
Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials | Going to trial <span class="noglossary">will</span> cost a minimum of $15,000 in lawyer's fees (each) for a two- or three-day trial. Most family law trials last one or two weeks or longer, and this figure ignores the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of all the other things that have to happen before you walk into the courtroom on day one! | ||
If this doesn't get your ex to agree to see a mediator, tell them to ask separated friends, family members and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. | If this doesn't get your ex to agree to see a mediator, tell them to ask separated friends, family members and co-workers how much it cost for their court proceedings and how long it took to go from start to finish. | ||
